I believe that there is not one theory that works for everyone so I am comfortable using a broad range of theories. However, I am partial to using an eclectic mix of humanistic, existential, cognitive behavioral, psychoanalytic, and solution focused theory. However, the most important component of my therapy is that it is done through collaboration with my client. It is critical that the modality that is chosen requires buy-in by the client because I do not want to apply a theoretical perspective that leaves the client feeling confused. Therapy should only feel as though the client and I are exchanging dialog back and forth. I want therapy to make sense to the client.
Another important factor is that therapy is not going to change the core values of the client. A client once said to me ” I am not going to decide to leave my wife after I go to therapy with you, am I?” I replied, “Is leaving your wife what you hope to be able to do?” My client stated, “Absolutely not, I just hope to appreciate her more.” I replied, “Well, then appreciating your wife is our goal, not you coming to some realization that you do not love her or need her.” This point sounds simple. However, it is not as simple as it sounds. Many clients and therapists become lost in therapy and go in directions that are not helpful. Therapy is not rocket science, if it doesn’t make sense to my clients, then it probably does not make sense period.
Therapy is a journey that I hope to share with you. However, the answers are within you and when challenges are discussed and issues are brought up, the solutions will make the most sense to you. I think that the practice has to match the client not the client matching the practice. So together, we will identify the treatment modality that works best for you.