I believe that foundational to therapy is the idea of loss. In order to make room for change, one has to mourn the loss of the old to make room for the new. There is no miracle to this process, just talk therapy. I believe talking it through provides you the opportunity to heal from the pain of the loss. There is nothing dysfunctional about feeling the pain of grief, loss, or abandonment so it just requires someone guiding you through it. Everyone mourns the loss at their own pace. Your ability to access it will dictate the time frame for a full recovery and a new beginning.