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When Is It Time For Couples Therapy? | Santa Clarita Couples Therapy

In the mental health community, there’s a term commonly used called “Self Regulation”. While there are some interchangeable words that mean the same thing, it’s pretty much just as it sounds. It’s your ability to self soothe, self regulate, or manage your emotions in times of stress, anxiety, frustration, or conflict. Many people expose their […]

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You posted WHAT on Facebook? | Therapy Santa Clarita

In today’s world, I understand the power and value of social media, and everyone’s need to be heard. However, I’m regularly surprised, and periodically cringe at what people are willing to say publicly. I refrain from judgment, certainly understand, and relate to the trials and tribulations in today’s world. However, I think it’s critical that […]

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The Zone of Communication | Couples Counseling Santa Clarita

When communication is poor relationships suffer the most while talking about areas that produce high conflict. I consider these areas “hot topics”. However, some couples can’t even communicate about simple subjects because their unresolved issues and resentments bleed into even the most non-threatening conversations. What should good communication look like? It’s when discussions stay productive […]

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The Rubber Band Effect in Marriage

On 2/15/15, the horrible news broke that a Santa Clarita resident shot and killed his wife and then turned the weapon on himself. The couple was going through divorce and people that knew them said the husband was a good man and couldn’t believe this happened. While I didn’t know them, I attribute many incidents […]

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Managing Your Madness

Do you ever wonder how you manage to get it all done despite how much is going on in your mind? Do you ever lie awake at night spinning with thoughts of what you have to do or what you’re worried about? Or are you the person to push and distract yourself so well that […]

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10 STEPS TO OVERCOMING INFIDELITY | Santa Clarita Marriage Counseling

Santa Clarita Marriage Counseling¬†By Donald Goodman LCSW STEP 1: GET THE VENOM OUT The victim has a right to be pissed as long as they need to be to feel better. STEP 2: DECIDE ON A SHORT TERM PLAN What are you two going to do immediately through the next few weeks. STEP 3:¬† CREATE […]

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Couples Counseling Santa Clarita | When Is It Just Too Late For Us?

Couples Counseling Santa Clarita I just finished a great book called “Talent is Overrated” by Geoff Colvin. The book taught me so much, but also confirmed some of my own beliefs about the value of hard work. The book emphasizes how little success has to do with talent and how great achievers and performers succeeded […]

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Child Therapy Santa Clarita | What Do You Do If Your Kid Is Getting High?

By Donald Goodman LCSW The short answer to this question is whatever it takes to get them to stop. This opens an abundance of options which can be overwhelming when deciding what specific steps you should take: Should you ground them? Follow them? Take away their valuables? Call the police? Isolate them from their drug […]

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Relatively Speaking

Having a strong marriage is hard work every single day and what many happy couples report struggling with are a cluster of similar issues that exist in most relationships. Some common themes that challenge a relationship are sex, money, kids, and relatives. The saying that when you get married, not only do you marry your […]

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